Looking for a dose of good cheer? Samantha Spijkers’ blog, DictionaryDutch, always does the trick for me! Here she explains how she overcame negative thinking…
For years I struggled with a negative self-image: did I have to be so ugly and stupid and worthless? And why were there so many mirrors in my house? Like I needed to see my own face staring back at me after every corner I turned…
But our minds are stupid. That is to say: they’ll believe anything we tell them as long as we repeat and repeat and repeat the message.
So after trying to live a mirror-less life (it had gotten to a point where I’d not switch on the lights so as not to see my reflection in the bathroom mirror and passing every other reflecting object with closed eyes – not my brightest plan), I thought: this must change. And it did. I did.
If you’re battling with a negative self-image, here’s what to do:
- Have a staring contest with yourself. Think that’s odd? Think about all the lies you’ve been feeding your brains about how awful you look. My point: there are way stranger things to do than staring at yourself.
- Make yourself come up with at least ten things you DO like about yourself. And you have to mean them!
- Repeat process daily and make sure to come up with new things you like about your body. Even the smallest detail will do.
After a while you’ll stop having staring competitions. It’ll end naturally. But the newfound appreciation for yourself will stay. As will the smiling (I now find myself smiling at myself every time I look into a mirror).
Appreciation is a much better feeling than avoiding mirrors because you’re too afraid to see yourself. Your inner beauty is reflected in your mirror image and your self-appreciation. Now go love yourself! And keep smiling 🙂
Samantha Spijkers is a blogger, sociologist and soon-to-be life coach. After conquering her depression she went looking for ways to turn her negative views on life around and blogs about her (inner) findings.